Sooooo... You all pretty much know the heartbreak I endured in 2013 going through my divorce & losing my father... All within a few months. But so many of you sent me your prayers & positivity & promised me 2014 would be my year! And guess what? It certainly is! Especially since I have fallen madly in love with the man of my dreams!
But you know it wouldn't be Jacey's crazy life if there wasn't some WILD back story about how I was able to pick up the pieces of my broken heart & learn to love again, right? Well of course! Because a healthy dose of drama follows this TV girl around... Or I cause it... One of the two!
Let's start off with the fact that Trent Aric & I have known each other for 10 years! We have worked together for the last decade. I used to anchor the weather & he used to be the Boss in that department - we weren't so crazy about each other back then. I was a little hot-head firecracker who didn't take kindly to being told what to do & we were both kids, just little youngins' starting out in TV in Miami. There are actually a few email "fights" we had back in the day, over the stupidest things, like space in the weather office, food in the fridge & the type of maps we built! Comical now, we laugh at how ludicrous they were, but at the time, neither one of us would ever have believed you, if you told us we would be a couple one day!
Fast forward 10 years & we're back anchoring together on weekend nights - but now with me in the news department & him definitely NOT my boss. We've seen each other date, get engaged, get married, get divorced, embark on other relationships & finally be single... All relatively along the same timeline.
Right around my birthday, we were both in the same single boat, when two of my closest girlfriends decided to play Cupid (Tory & Giselle I'm calling you out & giving you credit all at the same time!) & hatched a plan to get the two of us together. I had never looked at my co-worker & friend as anything more than that... But now I started to. You know how everyone always says "Timing is EVERYTHING"? Well it definitely is! Our lives had pretty much run parallel over the last decade with each of us doing the same things, separately. But now for the first time, they were poised to become perpendicular.
I had no idea when I went out with Trent for the first time, that it would actually turn into anything more than a fun friend to hang out with. We were both single, not looking for anything serious & we both love to travel. I think we both thought it would be nice to have a buddy. We never knew that our first date together would pretty much change our lives!
This night was the first time we both knew we had fallen in love & we were in big trouble! I jest about the trouble part, but falling in love is scary, you're taking a risk, making a leap of faith, tearing down walls you built up after being hurt in the past & exposing your extreme vulnerability, all for the chance, almost a gamble, that you hope you have met your match.
After my divorce, I was scared, I didnt know if I would ever find love again. I didn't know if I deserved to. I didn't know if I believed in the fairy tale & the happy ending. To be honest, I was pretty negative. Divorce destroys a part of who you are, along with the love story you grew up believing in. But nothing restores that better than finding your other half. Before Trent, I never believed in soul-mates. I certainly didn't think that there was one particular person on this planet tailor-made for me. That's ridiculous right?! I mean, come-on, what if my person was in Paris & I was in Key West... How would I find him? But lucky for me I actually did find HIM. You can officially call me the sappiest, love-sick, annoying, obnoxious, rose-colored glasses wearing, glass-all-the-way-full optimist! And I will own it 100%!
Life has never been better! There are sooooo many cliches that I now whole-heartedly believe in! First of all, everything really DOES happen for a reason! When people were saying that to me during my divorce, I was saying, "Yeah but for now, can somebody just find a human-sized spatula & scrape me off my floor?!" I thought I was dying at the time! No matter how many times people told me "EHFAR," I couldn't wrap my head around what the reason would be that my husband would leave me... And I certainly could not comprehend that it was meant to happen for a greater purpose. Little did I know what the future would hold! And by future, I mean my past brought into my present.
Wow! Mind blown!
I also have a VERY WISE friend that once said to me: "Relationships come about through Love or through Compatibility. But the luckiest people in the world find both."
Sasha Tryson, truer words have never been spoken! I never thought much about being compatible with someone... I was just searching for the spark, the butterflies, the head over heels falling feeling. But to have all that with someone that you have the same likes & dislikes, ethics, beliefs, thought processes & personality too?
I feel like I have won the relationship lottery!
Puzzle-Pieces. That's what we are.
And now I believe that EVERYONE can have true, respectful, caring, selfless, compassionate, unconditional love.
Just be patient. Wait. Pray. Believe in yourself. Know that you deserve the best. Your match is out there. Failed past relationships do NOT predict your future! Maybe we all need to fail in love in order to learn how to succeed. I have learned a lot & I have grown more in the past year than I thought was emotionally possible.
Find the one that makes you smile... & laugh. Look for the person that lets you actually be YOU! I always said, "I know I'm crazy... but I want a man to love me & my crazy!" It's a package deal, right?! And it takes a real man to step up & say, "I love you & everything that makes you who you are... the good... the bad... the pretty... the ugly... ALL of it"
So don't hold back. Tear down your walls. Expose your emotions. Take a chance. Gamble on yourself. Open yourself up to love. It doesn't matter if you've been hurt, or if you failed, or if ten years of your life were spent on someone who didn't really want you the way you were. All that matters is that there IS someone out there that is looking for you right now! And guess what? They want you exactly as God made you! When you find your match, your puzzle piece, your other pea in your pod... Grab them, don't let go, kiss them every chance you get & tell them how much you love them every single time you feel like it...
Because guess what?
Wait for it...
LIFE IS TOO SHORT!